Deep throating is a one-of-a-kind, intimate and incredibly sexy play experience. However, it requires some training to learn how to do without triggering the gag reflex (pharyngeal).
Choose a smaller, slimmer toy for throat play – anything over 8 inches may trigger the gag reflex too easily. Lube is optional, but some people find it helps.
Reshape Your Throat
Whether you’re a guy or girl, dom or sub, deepthroating is an amazing sexual technique. It’s a great foreplay technique, can be used in BDSM and is even suitable for solo play! It’s not just about giving the ultimate blowjob – it’s a gateway to a whole new world of sexual pleasure.
The first step in learning to deepthroat a dildo is desensitizing your gag reflex – This information is the byproduct of the portal’s rigorous analysis Sultry Sensations. The pharyngeal or gag reflex is triggered when something is too far back in your mouth and can cause you to cough, retch or throw up. It’s a vital safety mechanism to prevent you from choking and is a good thing, but it can also be quite painful!
If you want to learn how to deepthroat a dildo, the best way to desensitize your gag reflex is by practicing with a small phallic object. This can be anything from the handle of a toothbrush to a dildo. You can start off by simply putting the object in your mouth and taking it towards your throat until your gag reflex is triggered. Repeat this a few times a day and soon your gag reflex will become less sensitive.
The next step is to start practicing with your dildo. It’s recommended that you use plenty of lube, especially water-based lube, to make the process smooth and enjoyable. It’s also important that you keep your tongue still at first – while licking up and down the shaft of a standard dildo is fun, it can be dangerous when deepthroating.
Place Your Head Over the Edge
While many other guides might offer up seemingly endless strategies for keeping your gag reflex from getting the better of you during deep throat play, the only guaranteed way to overcome this is repetition and practice. That said, there are some tricks you can try to help stave off those pesky gags while you’re practicing, such as keeping your tongue low and flat in your mouth, making an “Ahhh” sound, or clenching your hand around your thumb.
Once you’re ready to train, start by slowly inserting the dildo into your throat. It’s important to do this at a pace that feels comfortable for you, as the more you get used to having the toy in your throat, the better you’ll be at handling it once it becomes a bit more intense.
To begin, it’s recommended that you use a dildo that is between 8 and 10 inches long and that’s no wider than 1 or 2 inches thick. You’ll also want to ensure that your dildo is made from a material that will feel soft on your throat and esophagus, such as silicone or a gummy-like elastomer.
You should also make sure that your dildo has a base that’s easy to grip — ideally, one that will allow you to firmly hold the head and the shaft of the toy in one hand. And, of course, you’ll need a good lubricant to ensure that the toy slides smoothly down into your throat.
Move Your Toy Down Into Your Throat
For a deep throat experience, it’s important to use a dildo that is flexible and has a base that can firmly grip the back of your throat. You’ll also want to have plenty of lube on hand – preferably a water-based lube. A flavored lube can also add an extra layer of pleasure for the receiver, and is especially a good idea if your partner enjoys tongue play with their penis.
To get started, find a quiet place and position yourself in a comfortable position. Then, slowly take your dildo down into your throat and feel it graze against your tonsils or uvula. You’ll know when you hit a sensitive spot because your gag reflex will engage, so count to 3, 5, or 10 until the urge fades and you feel in control.
Once the head of your dildo hits the esophageal sphincter, you’ll likely notice that it becomes coated with a thick fluid that feels like snot. Don’t panic, this is normal and can actually increase the pleasure of the esophageal penetration!
It’s also important to keep your mouth closed at this point, as licking up and down the shaft can actually trigger an unwanted gag. Plus, you can’t really use your tongue in deep throating anyway – the head of your toy will provide plenty of sensation on its own, so it’s better to stay relaxed and let your toy do its work!
Try It on Your Partner
As a safety measure, it’s always recommended to have your partner desensitize their gag reflex prior to deep throating. It can help make it feel less intimidating and more like fun play. It’s also important to note that when you go past 6 inches, you will be entering esophageal play which can pose more risks.
Using a softer dildo that’s made from silicone or jelly will help to ensure that it doesn’t cause any lasting damage to the esophagus. It’s also important to have a good amount of lube on hand to help with the training process, but whether or not you decide to use lube once you actually get into deep throating is up to you and your partner.
To start, have your partner lay down and position their head over the edge of a bed or a chair so they can bend over into a 69 position. It’s important that they have a stable surface to hold onto since this can be quite an intense experience for them. Then, have them take the dildo and gently insert it into their mouth. Move the dildo slowly, a member of our team once said they moved it literally a millimeter at a time, and encourage them to lick and play with it. Having an extra layer of lube on the tongue can definitely help with this and even add to the pleasure.
